Everyone is going through something that we can’t see. Wise words from Kevin Love. If you don’t know him, Kevin Love is an NBA All-Star advocating for mental health awareness ever since he suffered a panic attack due to anxiety during a game. He wrote an awesome article detailing his personal struggles and how opening up to others and asking for help changed his life after running from his problems for his whole life.
As a NBA player making millions simply to play basketball, Kevin saw no logical reason to have any worries in life. But, that didn’t change how he felt inside. Kevin had buried all his problems on and off the court inside, including never grieving the death of his beloved grandmother, and it took a heavy toll on him. It wasn’t until he talked about and confronted his struggles in therapy that he realized he wasn’t ok and needed help. Kevin realized that being a NBA player didn’t mean his life was perfect. He learned that, “No matter what our circumstances, we’re all carrying around things that hurt.”
That is the message I want to get across through this post. Everybody is going through something. Including you. You have been through many hardships in your life and may be going through something very hard right now. While it might look like to others that you have everything together, and you might even think you do yourself or your problems are minimal, deep down you are hurting. Even if a lot is going your way, such as your job or school or relationship or social life, you are still in pain about something else going on.
If this is you, I want you to know that it is ok to not be ok. Even if you think there is no reason for you to complain about your life, your feelings are valid and real and affect you. I encourage you to try not to bury them and deal with them alone. Ask for help. You will be surprised how much others will be willing to listen and help you if you open up to them. I myself have found this to be true with the select people I have grown to be vulnerable with, and am so thankful for the love and care they always show me no matter what.
Maybe even consider seeking therapy if you think it could help even in the slightest. I am never one to ask for help from even my best friends, but decided to start seeing a therapist a few weeks ago after being strongly encouraged to by my professor. It has been one of the best things for me in my entire life. Being able to talk about and process pain I have ignored for years has truly been enlightening, just as it was for Kevin. I believe the same is possible for you as well.
I’m not saying that it is easy. Opening up to others can put you at risk for being hurt even more if they don’t care for you or your problems. But, if you are able to be vulnerable with somebody who is trustworthy, it can be well worth it. It will open yourself to the opportunity for tremendous love and acceptance despite your imperfections. It can help you confront your struggles and learn how to manage them in a healthy manner. And that can do wonders for your life. It certainly has for mine.